The words above, found in last
Sunday’s readings for Palm Sunday, St Cyril of Alexandria interpreted in a way that has
always stuck with me. St Cyril says it was not despite the fact that the Son
was God that He emptied Himself but because He was the Son: The outpouring of
love from the Son to the Father is such that it is normal for the Son to give
Himself totally in this way. God is, by His nature, a perfect relationship in
which the persons are completely constituted by their relations.
It was the love of my wife that
brought this teaching alive for me. It was the love of my wife that taught me
that in giving myself I achieved happiness and if I could give myself totally,
as God can because He is, I could
gain total happiness. It was the love my wife that demonstrated to me what it
is like to see, in human terms, what an outpouring of love and devotion looks
like.
My wife is my teacher in the
school of charity. I look at her with fascination, how she waits upon me, how
she showers me with affection and a never ending kindness. She has abandoned
everything for me and in doing so she has given me a living example of what the
relations of God are like in their love and how a Christian should love.
God gives us the sacrament of
matrimony so that through our love we can understand that He is love and he
also uses marriage to explain His relationship to the Church. The letter to the
Ephesians says ‘For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head
of the church, his body, and is himself its Saviour… “For this reason a man
shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall
become one flesh.” This is a great mystery, and I mean in reference to Christ
and the church’ (Ephesians 5:23 &
31-32).
When I see how my wife loves me
with her total, innocent and absolute commitment I understand how I am supposed
to love God. Her purity of heart, her truthfulness of feeling, the way she
treats me is the way I am meant to approach God. Everything she does presents a
beautiful lesson to me in Christian living which lets me see what I could be if
my heart were open to Jesus in the right way. I am truly blessed to have been
loved so much and I am grateful to God that He has given me a wife who can
teach me so much about Himself and how He wants me to live as a Christian.